Anger, who never be angry at all? Even God get angry sometimes. But the problem mostly is not how not to be angry, but how to control anger, so it will not damage your relationship, your health, or your furniture.
Some people like to throw things when they got angry, while few people like to talk bad. There is lot of ways to express anger; even crying is one of the expressions. When you could not control your anger, usually you will get frustrated too, it is like something disturbing you and you could not do anything about it.
Do you need to go to psychiatrist in controlling your own emotion? Or you just go somewhere to calm down? It is all depend, because for serious cases you might need to go to psychiatrist to get therapy (even medication to help you). But, if you could handle it yourself, I think you better try it first before seeking for a paid help.
How is it to control your anger actually? There are ways you could try as below:
- Try to stay away from conflict, if you think you are somebody that easily burned into emotion, make a commitment that you will think before you say or do something
- When it happen (you are getting upset), take a deep breath, calm your self, count up to at least 15-20 deep breath
- Try meditation or yoga, it could make you feel relax, and hopefully by that you will not easily burned into emotion by anything
- Develop some hobby, it will reduce your stress (when you are stress, you will easily falling into anger).
- Try to have a good sense of humor, if you could find something humorous at your situation, maybe you could just laugh at it, and less stress.
- Lower your expectations, so you will get less stress or frustration.
- Try to find bright side even at the darkest situation, be grateful every time, be mentally positive, not letting emotion tense you.
- Forgive yourself and others, if you have a heart full of forgiveness, you will live this life more lightly.
- Do your prayer routines; if you close to God, you believe that somebody out there is watching you, always be with you, I think you will be ashamed if you are easily angry. Right?
It is not going to be easy to control your anger, because, it needs time to practice.
But if you have the correct map on how to control your anger, it could be easier for you to improve yourself. It will be very helpful if you are on the right track.
Another way, try to have a truly relationships with your family and friends, hopefully they will help you on how to control your anger, at least they will remind you when you are flare up.
You should have an outlet for your anger, I mean a positive one, like having a private blog to express how you feel, how you get so angry, what can you do, etc. By write down your problem and situation, somehow you could feel better and then you could also see ways to get out from the situation.
If you really need to say something bad, well you could write it down in Facebook, but please keep it for yourself, don’t let it hurt others.
However, if you could not fix the problem yourself, it is wise to go see a psychiatrist, he/she will help you on how to control your anger and becoming more peaceful person.
Anyway, this book on HOW TO CONTROL YOUR ANGER, might be useful for you too.
